resilience…

Posted on Tuesday 19 May 2009

On November 3, 2004, the day Kerry conceded defeat in the 2004 U.S. Presidential Election, Elizabeth Edwards was diagnosed with breast cancer. She later revealed that she discovered a lump in her breast while on a campaign stop in Kenosha, Wisconsin a few weeks earlier, in the midst of the campaign. Edwards was treated and has remained an activist for women’s health and cancer patients…

Wikipedia: John Edwards

In October 2007 The National Enquirer began a series of reports alleging an adulterous affair between Edwards and former campaign worker Rielle Hunter. By July 2008, several news media outlets speculated that Edwards’ chances for the vice presidency may have been harmed by the allegations, which now included that he fathered a child with Hunter and had visited her and the baby girl at the Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hills, California. However, the story was not widely covered by the press for some time, until, after initially denying the allegations, an outright admission was made by Edwards himself.

In an August 8, 2008 statement, and an interview with Bob Woodruff of ABC News, Edwards admitted the affair with Hunter in 2006 but denied being the father of her child. He acknowledged that he had been dishonest in denying the entire Enquirer story, admitting that some of it was true, but said that the affair ended long before the time of the child’s conception. He further said he was willing to take a paternity test but Hunter responded that she would not be party to a DNA test "now or in the future." A campaign aide, Andrew Young, claims that he, not Edwards, is the child’s father. An NBC report suggested that Young may possibly be covering for Edwards.

In May 2009, newspapers reported that Edwards’ campaign was being investigated for conversion of campaign money to personal use related to the affair. Edwards said that the campaign was complying with the inquiry. The relevant US attorney refused to comment. In the same month, George Stephanopoulos of ABC News reported that he had been told by members of Edwards’ staff that they had planned a "doomsday strategy" to derail Edwards’ campaign if he got close to the nomination. However Joe Trippi, a senior advisor to the campaign, said the report was "complete bullshit".
John Edwards is out doing good works trying to reclaim some self-respect. Elizabeth Edwards has written a book called Resilience. They’re off the world stage as players, now more objects of curiosity. It plays out that he was the antagonist, she was the injured party. That seems kind of right. But as I’ve watched them through the years and read the stories, that more simplistic version of things has worn kind of thin. Not that I doubt that he’s a "pretty boy" with a moral facade that doesn’t go very deep. But Elizabeth kept her cancer a secret, and I actually wonder how long. She then kept his affair a secret, even though [or because] he was running for President – kept it secret at his request. The article that got me to thinking about this couple was called Elizabeth Edwards Goes Public in the New York Times. It’s not such a favorable article, questioning her exposing her children to this increasingly bizarre story in such a public way.

When you look at that picture up there from their wedding, it’s hard to imagine that things would’ve played out like this. Frankly, it doesn’t make any sense, listening to either one of them. I suppose her cancer, or her outrage, might explain her books and her going public. And he doesn’t make any sense at all. If he’s that much of a mark, this was not his first affair. And if he has good sense, he would have headed for the hills at the first or second carnal thought. There was too much at stake. Neither one of them are acting reasonably.

Were I in search of something to explain all of this, I know where I would start –  I’d start with Wade. He is their 16 year old son who was killed in an auto accident in 1996. She writes about it. He talks about it [Edwards discusses impact of losing his son]. They started a Foundation from it. But do things like that ever really heal? I don’t think so. And I wonder if this strange drama that we’ve watched unfold on the public stage didn’t start when they met something in life that they couldn’t conceive, something none of us are really prepared to deal with. It recolors life, meaning, priorities, relationships – all the things that matter. I would suspect that were all known, they are both victims of the ill wind that blew their son’s Jeep off of the road 14 years ago.

The title of her book, resilience, is something of a buzz-word in the trauma literature – as if it’s a good thing. It refers to whatever it is that allows some people to weather trauma without being so obviously affected by it as others. I, for one, think that it’s a mistake to take that phenomena at face value. Stories like this one are the reason for my skepticism. The Edwards’ lives have become a shared tragedy, not an ad for "resilience." All I really want to say to them, or about them, is, "I’m sorry."
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    Joy
    May 20, 2009 | 7:45 AM
     

    I took her first book out of the library and I found it pratically impossible to read. In the book, Elizabeth is in menopause after losing her son and she has fertility treament and she has 2 more children. I admired her for her will and fortitude to have more children but it certainly was an extreme measure to take.I think there is a lot more to their stories. I feel very badly for them too. I especially feel bad for their adult daughter who not only lost her brother but now she sees her parents lives being played out in a book and other media outlets.

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    May 20, 2009 | 9:50 AM
     

    You add an important piece, Joy. Fertility treatment in Menopause? Breast Cancer? Probably related. What a sad tale…

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